Sunday 12 August 2007

Being Detached!!!

I was reading Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom.... One part of the book really answered a lot of my questions! It is about getting detached!

"Detachment doesn't mean that you don't let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That's how you are able to leave it."

"Take any emotion-love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I'm going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions-if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them-you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.
But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, 'All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.' "

How true?? Answered so many of my doubts!! So many times we love something or someone but can't be with that person. We feel lonely and miss our parents. And only when we have reached the height of love, or loneliness.... we realize that that thing doesn't hurt anyore.. We detach ourselves!!! It is almost miraculous... First I used to think that my feelings are not strong enough, not genuine!!! But now I know that they are of a very high intensity and thats why I am able to reach the height of the emotion faster and hence, detach myself faster!!

Co-incidentally, today's thought on my calendar was :

Detachment does not mean lack-of-will-to-live. It does notmean negativism. Detachment means being more objective, more balanced.

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Regina said...

this book is really touching

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